“I don’t know why I’m in this class because I already know what I need to know about parenting. And I don’t want to be here because I have work,” said the FOCUS for Mothers participant. These were the first words from our fiery client’s mouth as she entered the room the first week of class. She sat there with her arms crossed and her headphones on as she was trying to see what we were about and if it was worth her time. But we weren’t concerned, we saw past her anger and saw that she was in pain, after all, her son had been taken away. The client was quiet for the first few weeks of class until week 5 rolled around, which is when we cover the subject of anger.
It was that week when the client opened up and shared the reason why her son was removed. She shared that she had hurt her son out of anger. Once she even smashed her son’s TV because she was so angry at the time, but unfortunately, she hadn’t recognized that she had a problem, at least not until we addressed such issues in our classes.
She shared that she had been working 3 jobs to distract herself from the emptiness she felt since her son had been taken from her, she simply didn’t want to deal with her emotions. Throughout the FOCUS for Mothers classes, she began to understand that it was time to stop running from herself, the time had come to face the music if she wanted to get her son back. We all rallied around her and supported her by uplifting her and reminding her that she is capable of this and much more! During the following weeks, she shared that she had quit her two other jobs because she realized that she needed to take care of herself (as a result of our class on worth and self-esteem) and this was a big step for her! She shared that she gained the confidence to do so through the love and encouragement she had been receiving from us.
She thanked us for having patience with her and seeing past what she had said at the beginning of class. Fast forward, the client was finally reunited with her son, and she could not be happier! She thanked us for all the love and support we had offered her, “because, without us, she didn’t know if she would’ve made it,” said the FOCUS for Mothers participant.